Raising Integrity Through Relationships


          An amazing and yet horrifying aspect of parenting young children is that they repeat everything you say.  Not only do they repeat everything you say, they copy your body language, makmne your facial expressions, and even say it in the same tone of voice- scary.  It’s no wonder that adults raising children often become more conservative in their behavior and make an effort to do so for their kid’s sake.  

            One of the greatest benefits in having close relationships is the accountability it brings to our lives.  Many times living a life of integrity does not occur for our own sake, but rather when we do it for others.  What are ways that we can benefit from the accountability in close relationships?

            Lead with love.  The first step in finding accountability in relationships is realizing what the other person means to you.  Those of us who are more task-oriented may find this aspect of accountability as rather frustrating.  This is if we view our actions towards others as a matter of duty than love.  But when it comes to identifying a reason for doing what we do, we have to return to the motivation that brought us into the relationship in the first place.  The very first step when seeking accountability in a relationship is to remember why the relationship is important to us.

             Invest daily.  When attempting to change a behavior, be sure to make it a daily investment.  Studies show that if you can perform a routine daily for 21 days, it is more likely to become a habit.  Most importantly, communicate regularly with that significant other on how you’re doing.

             Focus on the heart.  Integrity is not about being perfect.  It is about having the willingness to keep trying for the sake of those you care about.  Theheart aspect is essential when evaluating actions in the context of relationships.   

           Extend your reach.  Integrity beginsin the way that we treat those closest to us.  However, this is not where it ends.  When we raise the level of our integrity in close relationships,we’ll soon realize that it will extend to everyone else we meet.

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About the Author

Brandon Lau grew up in Kailua and currently resides in Honolulu with his wife Andee and children Caylah, Elijah, and David. His eighteen years in real estate led him to become a Partner at ChaneyBrooks Choice Advisors. Over the past 10 years he has developed the team and systems that has created a high level of service and value for his clients.

What differentiates Brandon and his team is his consultative approach to real estate. He advises clients with relevant data and expert insight to help them make the best choices in real estate. Good choices in planning for long term dispositions, negotiating for the best price or knowing when not to pursue an investment are ways his consultative services will give you an advantage in the marketplace. His bottom line is providing service with the utmost integrity and expertise.